Chest sleeping with your baby
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Does your baby only want to sleep on your chest? Do you keep trying to put your baby in their cot but they won’t settle? Perhaps the only place they are calm is on you at nighttime? Maybe you feel guilty that you keep taking your baby out of their cot to sleep on you. Perhaps you don’t tell anyone about it because all the NHS guidance says don’t do it.
In her illuminating book, The Nurture Revolution, Greer Kirshenbaum poignantly captures the essence of chest sleeping with this quote:
“Your chest is a one-of-a-kind special home for your baby. Both babies and parents have special nerves in their chest called CT-afferent nerves. These sensitive nerves respond only to pleasurable touch and release oxytocin and dopamine into the baby and parent brains, which puts both baby and parents into nurtured safety states.”
There are few practices that resonate as deeply with our biological instincts as chest sleeping with our babies. This ancient sleeping arrangement, offers a profound connection between parent and baby, yet its prevalence often remains veiled in silence and guilt.
Our ancestors, traversing the ages long before cribs and bassinets, relied on the instinctual wisdom of chest sleeping to nurture their offspring. In the embrace of a parent’s chest, babies found solace and security, cocooned in the warmth of their caregiver’s love—a tradition woven into the fabric of human history.
Yet, in today’s society, the practice of chest sleeping often carries a weight of unwarranted guilt and secrecy. Many mothers find themselves drawn to this natural position, their babies seeking refuge against their chests, yet hesitating to share their experiences for fear of judgement or criticism. But the more we speak about it, the more normal it becomes.
I, too, found solace in chest sleeping with my daughter, initially thinking she would only sleep like this because she had silent reflux. However, upon reflection and newfound understanding, I realised that her instinctual desire for closeness mirrored that of countless babies throughout history—it was her way of seeking safety and connection in a world so vast and unfamiliar.
Cosleepy, the go to for anyone looking for cosleeping guidance, offers an informative chest sleeping guide and has shared these safe chest sleeping guidelines:
How to Bedshare With Baby on Your Chest:
Dress your baby and yourself lightly, as they’ll be absorbing some of your body heat. You don’t want them to overheat.
Prop yourself up with pillows in the center of your firm mattress. Make sure the pillows are behind your body, so they won’t pose a suffocation risk for your baby.
Place baby’s face on your chest, near your heart. As they lie on your, their body should be parallel with yours.
Hold onto their bottom or lower back as you sleep, to ensure they don’t slip off.
You can layer thin, breathable blankets over your legs if needed. You’ll want to keep the area around your body clear of anything soft or fluffy, in case your baby slips down while you’re sleeping.
Why Do I Have to Recline at an Angle?
It’s important to prop yourself up so your baby won’t be lying prone, or flat on their tummy. When they’re lying on you at an upward angle, their body weight will fall on their bottom and legs, not on their chest. Their lungs will be free to open to capacity.
Your baby will find a perfect, snug position on you, and slipping off is rare. But if you’ve created a safe bedsharing surface for your baby, they will likely be okay if it does happen.
These are the four components to a safe bedsharing surface:
Firm
Flat
Level
Clear
For this reason, you should never fall asleep with your baby while you’re on a sofa or chair. Most of the statistics about “cosleeping” fatalities involve a sofa – not a bed.
As long as you follow these safety guidelines from the experts in the field, you can confidently fall asleep as your baby safely sleeps on your chest.
As we navigate the labyrinth of modern parenting, it’s imperative to challenge the stigma surrounding chest sleeping and embrace it as a natural and valid choice for families. By fostering open dialogue and destigmatising this age-old practice, we can empower parents to trust their instincts and prioritise the well-being of their children.
To those who find themselves in the comforting embrace of chest sleeping, know that you are not alone. In sharing our stories and experiences, we pave the way for a future where chest sleeping is not only accepted but celebrated as a cherished aspect of our shared humanity.
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